{"id":8522,"date":"2026-07-17T10:06:10","date_gmt":"2026-07-17T05:06:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=8522"},"modified":"2026-07-17T10:06:10","modified_gmt":"2026-07-17T05:06:10","slug":"57-red-flags-that-reveal-someones-true-personality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=8522","title":{"rendered":"57 Red Flags That Reveal Someone&#8217;s True Personality"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><script>\r\n  atOptions = {\r\n    'key' : '644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6',\r\n    'format' : 'iframe',\r\n    'height' : 90,\r\n    'width' : 728,\r\n    'params' : {}\r\n  };\r\n<\/script>\r\n<script src=\"https:\/\/www.highperformanceformat.com\/644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6\/invoke.js\"><\/script>\r\n<br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cDon\u2019t judge a book by its cover\u201d is one of the first <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/life-lessons-learned-late-in-life\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener \" class=\" staff-link\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">life lessons<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> we learn as children. For the most part, it\u2019s about looking past seemingly unappealing superficial traits to know the real person beneath them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The saying can also work the other way around. Sometimes, we need to be wary of the overly pleasant person who may actually be <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/criminal-psychologist-question-diagnose-narcissist\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener \" class=\" staff-link\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">hiding something sinister<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> from within.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This was a topic of discussion in a recent <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@drsheraz55\/post\/DasxF3_D2p9\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\" class=\" staff-link\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Threads post<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, where people discussed the telltale signs of a covertly dangerous person masking themselves behind <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/curiosities\/wholesome-world\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener \" class=\" staff-link\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">niceness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. If you have trouble reading people, you may learn a thing or two just by scrolling through. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922097\">\n<p id=\"10922097\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/federica-giacomazzi-WGP2VYVyHVE-unsplash-6a589bf47c920__700.jpg\" alt=\"Two people embrace in blue and orange jackets, illustrating subtle signs someone isn't nice as they pretend to be.\" title=\"Two people embrace in blue and orange jackets, illustrating subtle signs someone isn't nice as they pretend to be.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">One of the biggest giveaways is when their kindness is conditional. They seem generous and respectful only as long as they get admiration, attention, or obedience. The moment they\u2019re told \u201cno,\u201d criticized, or rejected, they become manipulative, guilt-tripping, angry, or quietly vindictive. Genuine kindness doesn\u2019t disappear when expectations aren\u2019t met<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@drsheraz55\/post\/DauKp5xDLQP?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> drsheraz55 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-man-with-curly-hair-WGP2VYVyHVE\" target=\"_blank\"> Federica Giacomazzi <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-2\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922104\">\n<p id=\"10922104\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">When they speak with obvious compliments that contain veiled negativity. Smiling as they try to take you down<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@decrumpe\/post\/DaszhWKkcUY?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> decrumpe <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.magnific.com\/premium-photo\/happy-couple-their-new-apartment_4756907.htm#from_element=cross_selling__photo\" target=\"_blank\"> branin <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-6\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922111\">\n<p id=\"10922111\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/pexels-theo-decker-5447798-6a58d1af2ab59__700.jpg\" alt=\"A man with glasses and a serious expression, considering subtle signs someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" title=\"A man with glasses and a serious expression, considering subtle signs someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">They never express that they are angry, sad, disappointed. They are always \u201cok\u201d and \u201cfine\u201d and \u201cgood\u201d. These types of nice guys are DANGEROUS because they have made a habit of lying and their code\/frequency is stuck at \u201cinauthentic\u201d and that makes them more likely to lie to you, gaslight you and make your authenticity a challenge to their ego.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@minilikemouse\/post\/DattzIIlApm?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> minilikemouse <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/a-man-wearing-eyeglasses-with-hands-on-chin-5447798\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Theo Decker <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-9\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922129\">\n<p id=\"10922129\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/getty-images-9ro-xtoqygg-unsplash-6a58d23e371bb__700.jpg\" alt=\"A man with his hands on his head, looking stressed, possibly reflecting on subtle signs someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" title=\"A man with his hands on his head, looking stressed, possibly reflecting on subtle signs someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">I think one of the biggest tells is whether their kindness can survive a loss of control. I\u2019ve seen people that seem extraordinarily nice as long as everyone around them is behaving in ways that keep them comfortable. You can learn a lot by watching who they become when they don\u2019t get to control the outcome.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@danielleinkc_aesthetic\/post\/Dat0UbslZYk?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> danielleinkc_aesthetic <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-portrait-od-depressed-young-african-american-man-with-head-in-hands-sitting-at-home-9ro-xtoqygg\" target=\"_blank\"> Getty Images <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-18\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922222\">\n<p id=\"10922222\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/andrej-lisakov-zfwwwODr8ns-unsplash-6a58da5b8135f__700.jpg\" alt=\"A man with a subtle, unreadable expression while hugging someone, depicting signs someone isn't as nice.\" title=\"A man with a subtle, unreadable expression while hugging someone, depicting signs someone isn't as nice.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">He wants to know all the ways you\u2019ve been \u201churt\u201d in your life.<br \/>It sounds empathetic.. but hes not\u2026he\u2019s studying his prey.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@cindakay333\/post\/Dat1TMqlJoy?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> cindakay333 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-man-and-a-woman-hugging-each-other-zfwwwODr8ns\" target=\"_blank\"> Andrej Li\u0161akov <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-28\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922256\">\n<p id=\"10922256\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/meg-aghamyan-OykFSmsRgh0-unsplash-6a58dbb54a264__700.jpg\" alt=\"A person hunched over on a bench at night, a subtle sign someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" title=\"A person hunched over on a bench at night, a subtle sign someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">When they\u2019re performative, on the outside they seem charming just great all around but underneath they lack empathy, accountability, deflect, gaslight, use others as opportunities, will lied steal and cheat. They will be a perpetual victim of every failed relationship always rewriting the story for the \u201cnice guy\u201d to get pity. Confront them or have boundaries and EGO, arrogance and pride will reveal the nastiness underneath. The true them<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@trinapualani\/post\/Dat4bzqDclk?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> trinapualani <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-person-sitting-on-a-bench-with-their-head-down-OykFSmsRgh0\" target=\"_blank\"> Meg Aghamyan <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-32\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922265\">\n<p id=\"10922265\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/daiga-ellaby-xG0Dw4YPkD0-unsplash-6a58dc02a103e__700.jpg\" alt=\"A man talking animatedly, illustrating subtle signs someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" title=\"A man talking animatedly, illustrating subtle signs someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" width=\"605\" height=\"600\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Before they do something wrong, they start listing reasons WHY the person deserves it, it\u2019s icky.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@yadigee\/post\/Datxrj9Frqt?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> yadigee <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-person-sitting-on-a-couch-xG0Dw4YPkD0\" target=\"_blank\"> Daiga Ellaby <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-34\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922266\">\n<p id=\"10922266\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/pexels-a-darmel-6643016-6a58dc3a2cf14__700.jpg\" alt=\"A man covering his face, a subtle sign someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" title=\"A man covering his face, a subtle sign someone isn't as nice as they pretend to be.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">It all comes out when they get mad about something. How they deal with conflict or dissatisfaction or disappointment\u2026that\u2019s where the truth of them is.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@sflo823\/post\/Dat1xJ6DSxS?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> sflo823 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/man-with-his-hand-on-his-face-6643016\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Alena Darmel <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-35\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922270\">\n<p id=\"10922270\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Everyone was charmed by him, but you couldn\u2019t get close to him or form a genuine connection. He was a narcissist.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@enirobo7\/post\/Datt0iHoOkf?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> enirobo7 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-36\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922276\">\n<p id=\"10922276\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Sometimes the most dangerous person in the room is the one who worked the hardest to convince everybody they\u2019re the safest.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@haydee_b_\/post\/DauRrhklY4q?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> haydee_b_ <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-37\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922288\">\n<p id=\"10922288\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">They ask inappropriate personal questions right off the bat. Immediately attempting to test boundaries.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@helenagirl9\/post\/Dat2baHDlJG?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> helenagirl9 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-39\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922293\">\n<p id=\"10922293\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Trying to separate themselves from men in general. Like \u201cmost men aren\u2019t like me\u201d or \u201cI would never\u201d type of talk.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@voluptu0usvixen\/post\/DatwAgejuSA?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> voluptu0usvixen <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-40\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922377\">\n<p id=\"10922377\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Any self proclaimation of good qualities repeatedly. The eyes as well. A lot of \u201cgood guys\u201d have dead eyes.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@lanakris1317\/post\/Dat09lWjeAn?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> lanakris1317 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-47\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922382\">\n<p id=\"10922382\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">They get upset when the attention is off of them or they don\u2019t receive validation for every idea they have<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@sophia.mer24\/post\/Datr-2eFBb5?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> sophia.mer24 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-48\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922400\">\n<p id=\"10922400\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">When they always seem to have just the right thing to say in the beginning of your relationship &#8211; they want what you want, etc.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@colorful_dreams22\/post\/Dats6EQoLuy?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> colorful_dreams22 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-49\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922411\">\n<p id=\"10922411\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Women in their past relationships broke their heart&#8230;cheated on them etc.<br \/>Before you know it, the &#8220;cute&#8221; jealousy starts&#8230;.but it&#8217;s disguised as care.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@meeerasvirtue\/post\/Datu_CFCNMl?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> meeerasvirtue <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-50\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922423\">\n<p id=\"10922423\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">I went on a dinner date once with a guy who said, \u201cI\u2019ll never cheat on you\u201d, out of the blue. I stood up and said \u201cYou won\u2019t get a chance\u201d and drove myself home!<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@tinaslo\/post\/DauASiiG0gH?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> tinaslo <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-51\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922442\">\n<p id=\"10922442\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Mansplaining. It\u2019s a sign they need to know more than you about everything. Good luck getting them to admit they are wrong<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@terry_fm_mn\/post\/Dat4j2SFpGH?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> terry_fm_mn <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-54\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922537\">\n<p id=\"10922537\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">If he ever says &#8220;I&#8217;ll tell you what&#8230;&#8221; and then offers some minor favor dressed as a major kindness, RUN.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@susanemiletancraitor\/post\/Dat2mkxEYT0?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> susanemiletancraitor <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-55\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922544\">\n<p id=\"10922544\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">They mask their words as appearing articulate but at the end of the day they are just gaslighting you with lies about who you are to make you feel less than. When you go to someone in a shared circle for help they do not believe you because the man seems so articulate to them.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@kim_beatha\/post\/Das-TAilurS?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> kim_beatha <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-56\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922557\">\n<p id=\"10922557\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Says he only wants female friends to protect them, acts like a nice guy to get close to women, but secretly only collects women he finds attractive to see if any buy into his &#8220;I&#8217;m a catch, I&#8217;m not like other men&#8221; persona. Plot twist, he&#8217;s very much like other men, and worse.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@maribones3\/post\/Dat00FljdOd?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> maribones3 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-58\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922564\">\n<p id=\"10922564\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">When they only want men to be masculine and women to be feminine, and judge those who are different from that.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@im.just.steph\/post\/DauPSLkjV4k?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> im.just.steph <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-61\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922565\">\n<p id=\"10922565\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">When they laugh at someone getting hurt, or at the idea of gratuitous violence.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@baboone2011\/post\/Dat3hqpFMxx?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> baboone2011 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-62\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922567\">\n<p id=\"10922567\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">The second you feel uncomfortable being yourself around them. The moment you feel yourself having to tone police a word or two or defend an idea with too much veracity. We are on a first date sir! I didn\u2019t think I needed to bring my laptop and a dissertation for proof of my knowledge.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.threads.com\/@soapbox_siren\/post\/Dat_btdlDwo?xmt=AQG0uk27WF-adXMEwjromvwfzmT-6hYr7D5itcX17ySJqg\" target=\"_blank\"> soapbox_siren <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/signs-nice-guy-actually-dangerous-63\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10922574\">\n<p id=\"10922574\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">When they are extremely pushy about anything in a passive aggressive manner. 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