{"id":33960,"date":"2026-08-09T05:15:09","date_gmt":"2026-08-09T00:15:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=33960"},"modified":"2026-08-09T05:15:09","modified_gmt":"2026-08-09T00:15:09","slug":"whoever-is-doing-the-task-is-doing-it-perfectly-48-married-life-secrets-to-make-your-relationship-even-better","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=33960","title":{"rendered":"\u201cWhoever Is Doing The Task Is Doing It Perfectly\u201d: 48 Married Life Secrets To Make Your Relationship Even Better"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><script>\r\n  atOptions = {\r\n    'key' : '644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6',\r\n    'format' : 'iframe',\r\n    'height' : 90,\r\n    'width' : 728,\r\n    'params' : {}\r\n  };\r\n<\/script>\r\n<script src=\"https:\/\/www.highperformanceformat.com\/644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6\/invoke.js\"><\/script>\r\n<br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Happy and healthy relationships don\u2019t just happen. They require commitment, dedication, and patience to gradually build trust, good communication, and respect. They\u2019re a lot of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/things-to-know-before-getting-married\/\" class=\" staff-link\">hard work<\/a>! But the good news is that it\u2019s most definitely worth all the effort. Case in point, positive relationships help you <a href=\"https:\/\/news.harvard.edu\/gazette\/story\/2017\/04\/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" class=\" staff-link\">live longer<\/a>. <\/p>\n<p>Wise married people took to a fascinating online thread to share the most important secrets about relationships they <a href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" class=\" staff-link\">learned<\/a> only after the wedding. We have collected their hard-won advice, and we hope you\u2019re taking notes. This is the kind of stuff that can make your already awesome <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/relationships\/couples\/\" class=\" staff-link\">relationship<\/a> even better. Setting your ego aside and not needing to be right all the time is just the very tip of the iceberg. <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015936\">\n<p id=\"11015936\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/kateryna-hliznitsova-vzxyZKH_p0A-unsplash-6a71b488c9dc9__700.jpg\" alt=\"A loving married couple embracing and looking into each other's eyes, experiencing truths about being married.\" title=\"A loving married couple embracing and looking into each other's eyes, experiencing truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"404\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">That unless your boundaries are being violated in some way, you don\u2019t need to be right all the time. Nor do you need to share every thought in your head. Some things are better kept to yourself.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16kenn\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Inevitable_Gate_3322 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-man-sitting-next-to-a-woman-on-a-wooden-floor-vzxyZKH_p0A\" target=\"_blank\"> Kateryna Hliznitsova <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-1\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015950\">\n<p id=\"11015950\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/getty-images-PElTq5s-ic-unsplash-6a71d09824884__700.jpg\" alt=\"A woman looking upset while a man sits in the background, illustrating some truths about being married.\" title=\"A woman looking upset while a man sits in the background, illustrating some truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Marriage is not always 50\/50. Sometimes is 60\/40 or 90\/10. Some days your spouse will be stronger and you need a little more. Other days it will be the other way around. As long as you both come together to even it out, it makes bearing the burden of life a little bit easier to manage.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16m0gy\/\" target=\"_blank\"> WagWoofLove <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/young-unhappy-couple-having-problems-in-their-relationship--PElTq5s-ic\" target=\"_blank\"> Getty Images <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-15\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-3\"><\/p>\n<p>Any positive relationship, romantic or otherwise, is grounded in honesty and good communication. In a nutshell, you want to feel safe enough to share what you think and feel with the people closest to you. You want to feel heard, understood, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-realize-partner-idiot\/\" class=\" staff-link\">truly connected<\/a>. <\/p>\n<p>Mutual respect, kindness, fairness, and equality are also vital in relationships. These require two-way effort. If only one person is behaving decently, something is off. You need to be able to compromise at times, instead of dominating the other person or them walking all over you. <\/p>\n<p>Other things that help build a healthy relationship include shared interests, similar values, boundaries, respect for consent, generosity, respecting privacy, being able to deal with conflict, and being authentic, the BBC <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.co.uk\/bitesize\/articles\/zttxfdm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" class=\" staff-link\">writes<\/a>. <\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015937\">\n<p id=\"11015937\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/getty-images-0AkY_K7MWSE-unsplash-6a71b4c05cf73__700.jpg\" alt=\"A woman sitting on a bed looking thoughtful, while her husband is in the background, contemplating truths about being married.\" title=\"A woman sitting on a bed looking thoughtful, while her husband is in the background, contemplating truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Despite having a very high degree of compatibility , there will still be many disagreements &amp; conflicts.<br \/>Have to learn when to keep fighting for your point of view &amp; when to back down.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16k9qj\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Moist_Method1924 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/asian-young-girl-feel-angry-boyfriend-having-conflict-domestic-problem-new-marriage-man-and-woman-feel-heartbroken-for-quarrel-conflict-while-sit-on-bed-in-bedroom-family-problem-separation-concept-0AkY_K7MWSE\" target=\"_blank\"> Getty Images <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-2\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015938\">\n<p id=\"11015938\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/lia-bekyan-QvCv_9J_bA8-unsplash-6a71b4e77c37e__700.jpg\" alt=\"A happy married couple reading a book together, sharing truths about being married.\" title=\"A happy married couple reading a book together, sharing truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">The truth is, you fall in love with your partner as they change over the years; in that sense, you fall in love with your wife throughout your life, with everything about her and her changes. Its awesome.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16kkpq\/\" target=\"_blank\"> joelinetti <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-man-and-woman-sitting-on-a-couch-reading-a-book-QvCv_9J_bA8\" target=\"_blank\"> Lia Bekyan <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-3\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-6\"><\/p>\n<p>The key thing to remember in any relationship is that if something\u2019s wrong, if there\u2019s an issue, your best approach is\u2026 simply talking to the other person about it. There is no alternative to open and honest communication. Nobody is a mind-reader.<\/p>\n<p>But you need to tackle these problems in a non-judgmental way as much as possible. Tell the other person how their behavior makes you feel and how you\u2019d like the relationship to look like in the future. Don\u2019t attack them, even if you\u2019re objectively right and they\u2019re clearly in the wrong. You don\u2019t need to \u201cwin\u201d the argument. You need to get on the same page, instead.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIf it\u2019s on your mind, even if it\u2019s something good, don\u2019t be afraid to bring it up. We tend to not communicate as much as we need, and you can rarely over-communicate when it comes to how you\u2019re feeling. Checking in with yourself and the other person to make sure you continue to have similar goals and similar values is as equally important as anything else,\u201d registered psychotherapist Natacha Duke <a href=\"https:\/\/health.clevelandclinic.org\/signs-of-a-healthy-relationship\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\" class=\" staff-link\">told<\/a> the Cleveland Clinic. <\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015948\">\n<p id=\"11015948\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/annie-spratt-P2jWHm3m1Nw-unsplash-6a71cf70d9450__700.jpg\" alt=\"A person in bed, covering their face with their hands, expressing a truth about being married.\" title=\"A person in bed, covering their face with their hands, expressing a truth about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Sometimes, you have to go to bed angry. It is essential for life and work and actually resets an argument until clearer heads prevail. Also, sleeping in another room or the sofa is like a vacation sometimes. Love my wife with all my heart. Sometimes, from the next room.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16kf7k\/\" target=\"_blank\"> boxbackknitties <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-person-lays-on-a-bed-P2jWHm3m1Nw\" target=\"_blank\"> Annie Spratt <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-13\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-9\"><\/p>\n<p>A core part of authenticity is vulnerability. In order to enjoy a healthy relationship, you both need to be ready to be vulnerable.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSometimes, this might mean sharing parts of ourselves that we feel insecure about in order to see if this relationship could have the makings of something special,\u201d Duke says.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOne thing you can continue to check in with yourself about over time is whether or not your trust towards this person is growing. Is there something you\u2019re not getting that you need? Is there something you\u2019re not doing that your partner needs?\u201d <\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015945\">\n<p id=\"11015945\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/curated-lifestyle-yLv_JYo7Thw-unsplash-6a71b58d317b0__700.jpg\" alt=\"A couple sitting apart on a couch, appearing distant, representing a truth about being married.\" title=\"A couple sitting apart on a couch, appearing distant, representing a truth about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"414\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">My husband and I have agreed to never be in a bad mood on the same day.So if he&#8217;s had three bad days in a row, and I come home in a bad mood he&#8217;s got to shut up and listen to me, because it&#8217;s my turn.We&#8217;ve been married forty years.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16km29\/\" target=\"_blank\"> wellagain45 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/unhappy-couple-arguing-on-the-sofa-yLv_JYo7Thw\" target=\"_blank\"> Curated Lifestyle <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-10\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015946\">\n<p id=\"11015946\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/getty-images-Hy0gDarXkk0-unsplash-6a71b5e99e7c8__700.jpg\" alt=\"A happy woman playing video games with a headset on, showing a truth about being married.\" title=\"A happy woman playing video games with a headset on, showing a truth about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"404\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Both you and your spouse need to have hobbies more than being a spouse\/parent. Each of you need opportunities for release that have nothing to do with your partner. And you need to encourage each other\u2019s hobbies.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16ovd8\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Nine1ron <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/happy-female-gamer-smiling-while-playing-and-winning-in-a-video-game-with-a-remote-controller-young-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-in-her-bedroom-with-neon-led-lights-Hy0gDarXkk0\" target=\"_blank\"> Getty Images <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-11\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015954\">\n<p id=\"11015954\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/getty-images-9d7_WaIWhj4-unsplash-6a71d1327dd1a__700.jpg\" alt=\"An older man sits on the edge of a bed looking distressed, with his wife sleeping in the background, representing truths about being married.\" title=\"An older man sits on the edge of a bed looking distressed, with his wife sleeping in the background, representing truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Argue to understand. Don\u2019t argue to prove you are right. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>Changes everything about the intent of the argument and therefore the outcome. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16t18o\/\" target=\"_blank\"> SigmundFeud <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/near-sleeping-wife-grey-haired-husband-wearing-pajamas-feeling-thoughtful-sitting-near-sleeping-wife-9d7_WaIWhj4\" target=\"_blank\"> Getty Images <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-19\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-12\"><\/p>\n<p>Which of these marriage secrets did you find the most helpful, and why? What aspects of your relationships, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/tacky-wedding-ceremony-stories\/\" class=\" staff-link\">romantic<\/a> or otherwise, do you typically struggle with? What are you doing to grow and improve as an individual?<\/p>\n<p>What advice would you give new couples to help them see if they\u2019re genuinely a great match?<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019d love to hear your thoughts about, well, everything. Drop by the comments at the bottom of this post to share your wisdom with all the other readers, as well as us.<\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015967\">\n<p id=\"11015967\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/blake-carpenter-9ooMr_r7BlY-unsplash-6a733bbda9372__700.jpg\" alt=\"A loving couple sharing an embrace, representing the truths about being married.\" title=\"A loving couple sharing an embrace, representing the truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"906\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">You can love your spouse with every fiber of your being, and sometimes, still not like them very much. The important part is that the period of not liking them is short and you are reminded why you love them. You choose them every day.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16kc8l\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Mokelachild <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/woman-in-white-sweater-wearing-black-framed-eyeglasses-9ooMr_r7BlY\" target=\"_blank\"> Blake Carpenter <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-32\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015971\">\n<p id=\"11015971\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/1-6a733c63e96b6__700.jpg\" alt=\"A woman sits alone on a train, reflecting on the truths about being married.\" title=\"A woman sits alone on a train, reflecting on the truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"908\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">That having a long-term partner does not mean you won&#8217;t feel lonliness. Everyone will always be lonely at some point regardless of their marital status. So rushing into marriage just because you feel lost is a bad choice. You&#8217;ll still need to learn to save yourself.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16t13b\/\" target=\"_blank\"> cqrus <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-woman-is-sitting-on-a-subway-train-MIwVwI3park\" target=\"_blank\"> Ahmed <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-36\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015944\">\n<p id=\"11015944\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/natalia-blauth-n5YW0GOs5DA-unsplash-6a71b5555e3e5__700.jpg\" alt=\"A man in a wheelchair washing dishes in a kitchen sink, illustrating a truth of being married.\" title=\"A man in a wheelchair washing dishes in a kitchen sink, illustrating a truth of being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"404\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">The best piece of advice I was ever given about marriage: \u201cwhoever is doing the task is doing it perfectly\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>I couldn\u2019t believe how much more loving we were after I stopped giving my two cents about how things were being done. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16mboq\/\" target=\"_blank\"> amahenry22 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-man-sitting-in-a-chair-n5YW0GOs5DA\" target=\"_blank\"> Natalia Blauth <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-9\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015949\">\n<p id=\"11015949\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/curated-lifestyle-J8GoCWY1u-k-unsplash-6a733dbea595a__700.jpg\" alt=\"A couple sitting on the kitchen floor, drinking coffee and talking, showing truths about being married.\" title=\"A couple sitting on the kitchen floor, drinking coffee and talking, showing truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"411\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">I am speaking to you from a husband&#8217;s perspective. The biggest change for me&#8230; <\/span><\/p>\n<p>I had to learn that not every time my wife speaks is she looking for me to solve a problem; sometimes she just wants to know that someone hears her. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16l3wt\/\" target=\"_blank\"> mistereousone <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/couple-together-in-the-kitchen-J8GoCWY1u-k\" target=\"_blank\"> Curated Lifestyle <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-14\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015958\">\n<p id=\"11015958\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/1-6a733e6831cde__700.jpg\" alt=\"A couple in straw hats relaxes on a couch, enjoying a drink and watching TV, portraying truths about being married.\" title=\"A couple in straw hats relaxes on a couch, enjoying a drink and watching TV, portraying truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">I have a set of dice that are options for what&#8217;s for dinner, what to do for a date, and what kind of show to watch, and I am almost embarrassed at how much it has helped my marriage. Little dumb decisions can be *relentless*. Decision fatigue is real, hanger is ugly, and it&#8217;s nice to just roll the dice and say &#8220;looks like we&#8217;re having Thai food and watching a comedy!&#8221;.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16nx2v\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Jazmadoodle <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/asian-family-watch-tv-screen-pretend-on-beach-during-summer-in-house-happy-traveller-people-having-fun-stay-at-home-parent-spend-time-with-young-children-girl-in-living-room-due-to-covid19-lockdown-ThMfK2VYYLY\" target=\"_blank\"> Getty Images <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-23\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015961\">\n<p id=\"11015961\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/jakob-owens-jbaF5N0uO0k-unsplash-6a733f0ac4668__700.jpg\" alt=\"A newly married couple embraces in a field with the sunset behind them, illustrating truths about being married.\" title=\"A newly married couple embraces in a field with the sunset behind them, illustrating truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"908\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Getting treated as a VIP by staff at his workplace gave me an unexpected rush. So did getting called Mrs &#8212;&#8212;. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>I had never wanted to get married before we decided it would be a good idea for us, as an interracial couple. (I said, what if one of us ends up in the hospital and the other needs to have access to know what&#8217;s going on?) So the nice little social perks took me by surprise. <\/p>\n<p>Less than 3 years after we got married I was in the hospital fighting for my life (cancer). The &#8220;patient&#8217;s husband&#8221; privileges became crucial. My entire medical team embraced him as a team member also keeping me alive. I doubt boyfriend-status could have opened doors and medical files and medical team confidences the way husband status did. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16smih\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Expert_Slip7543 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/man-in-black-suit-kissing-woman-in-white-wedding-dress-jbaF5N0uO0k\" target=\"_blank\"> Jakob Owens <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-26\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015966\">\n<p id=\"11015966\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/getty-images-1jIIaFRiH84-unsplash-6a733fe371755__700.jpg\" alt=\"A couple having a serious discussion, depicting the realities and truths about being married.\" title=\"A couple having a serious discussion, depicting the realities and truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Give each other the benefit of the doubt. Meaning, we both enter every argument, fight, conversation on the basis that neither of us would do anything to purposely hurt the other, upset the other, cross their boundaries etc. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s the baseline. <\/p>\n<p>For us, it\u2019s helped conversations not be so fueled by feelings. I approach a fight very differently if I feel like my husband deliberately hurt my feelings vs misunderstood me. My words and tone are different. And vice versa. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16semi\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Trashacccount927 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/young-man-having-a-problem-girlfriend-comforting-her-sad-boyfriend-1jIIaFRiH84\" target=\"_blank\"> Getty Images <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-31\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015969\">\n<p id=\"11015969\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/ergo-zakki-QjLE11j5FT8-unsplash-6a734025539ec__700.jpg\" alt=\"A golden ring in a hand, symbolizing the commitment and truths about being married.\" title=\"A golden ring in a hand, symbolizing the commitment and truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"364\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Your marriage belongs to you and your partner. No outsider\u2019s opinion, advice, or interference carries more weight than the commitment you make to each other.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p17g06o\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Jumpy_Dragonfruit466 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/gold-and-silver-wedding-band-QjLE11j5FT8\" target=\"_blank\"> Ergo Zakki <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-34\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015972\">\n<p id=\"11015972\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/matheus-camara-da-silva-rjzW_IIjBJc-unsplash-6a7340d20f6c9__700.jpg\" alt=\"A couple talks outdoors, sharing thoughts about the truths about being married.\" title=\"A couple talks outdoors, sharing thoughts about the truths about being married.\" width=\"605\" height=\"403\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">It\u2019s really easy with the right person. It also makes raising a kid really easy. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>All the \u201cwe have ups and downs and it can be really hard at times and we drive each other nuts\u2026\u201d &#8211; like, nah. It doesn\u2019t have to be like that. It shouldn\u2019t be like that. <\/p>\n<p>Like I\u2019ve been in dysfunctional relationships that I thought were good. They weren\u2019t. Good communication, which includes really listening, makes things super easy. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16r6a1\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Scruffasaurus <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-man-and-a-woman-standing-next-to-each-other-rjzW_IIjBJc\" target=\"_blank\"> Matheus C\u00e2mara da Silva <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-37\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015979\">\n<p id=\"11015979\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">When a lady gives birth, she changes forever &#8211; mentally, physically and emotionally. For better or for worse, she is no longer the same person before.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p179wuf\/\" target=\"_blank\"> dr4g0nmanic <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-44\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015991\">\n<p id=\"11015991\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Don\u2019t be a thief of joy. No snide remarks about a new hobby when they have 12 abandoned hobbies already, no telling them how much you don\u2019t care about the new Spider-Man movie, or downplaying a small accomplishment they were excited to tell you about. It\u2019s fine to say, \u201cit\u2019s not my thing, but I\u2019m happy to listen and I\u2019m glad you enjoy it.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Also, someone mentioned \u201csome days it\u2019s 50\/50, some days it\u2019s 80\/20\u201d and it\u2019s more than that. Sometimes it\u2019s 80\/20 for a year. If you spend the rest of your life with someone you will eventually go through a medical event, a mobility limiting injury, the loss of loved ones. You have to be willing to take care of your partner, and they you, for an extended amount of time. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p17r2yi\/\" target=\"_blank\"> minda_spK <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-56\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016002\">\n<p id=\"11016002\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Marraige isn&#8217;t an expic romance every single day. A lot of days are kinda mundane, sometimes boring. Just like life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>And that&#8217;s why you have to work at it. When people say things like &#8220;I make a decision every day to work on my marriage and love my spouse&#8221; it&#8217;s because of the mundane. There&#8217;s a line between accepting that life isn&#8217;t always exciting and complacency. Gotta figure out how to stay on the correct side of it. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16qx7o\/\" target=\"_blank\"> threeLetterMeyhem <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-67\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016003\">\n<p id=\"11016003\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">How nice it is to *really* know someone and count on them. My husband could tell you my order at all the restaurants we frequent and I could do the same for him. We both can tell exactly why one of us may be in a bad mood e.g. I know when he&#8217;s upset because he&#8217;s gone too long without food, he knows when I haven&#8217;t taken a medication I need.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p179htb\/\" target=\"_blank\"> themusicman06 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-68\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016005\">\n<p id=\"11016005\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">When you marry someone, you marry their family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>You have relationships with their parents now. And their siblings. Their niblings are your niblings. And if they have kids? You\u2019re a stepparent now, you don\u2019t get a choice.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re probably going to treat you kindly, because most people are good; but they\u2019ll treat you kindly according to *their* definition and *their* values and *their* culture and upbringing. It may not be what you\u2019re used to.<\/p>\n<p>Got a problem with them? You can ask your spouse for suggestions and maybe request that they talk to the relative in question, but your spouse can\u2019t control their family. Think about it; can you control yours?<\/p>\n<p>Are they deeply religious? You\u2019re gonna end up in that family\u2019s church at least a few times. Is their religion hateful or misogynistic? Even if an individual has left a church, they grew up with church teachings and parents who have church values.<\/p>\n<p>Are they no contact with their family? You may not know those people, but you\u2019ve taken on a share of your spouse\u2019s emotional baggage with them. You\u2019re also taking on more of a supportive role, to make up for the support that they\u2019re not getting from family.<\/p>\n<p>Get to know the group and the family dynamics before you get married. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p17pe39\/\" target=\"_blank\"> insertcaffeine <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-70\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016007\">\n<p id=\"11016007\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Medical changes can be a huge challenge to marital stability. For my husband, it was high BP and diabetes in our 30s. It took forever to realize that those things were the reason he was ALWAYS irritable and became nearly physically violent. After treatment, I had my sweet spouse back. Later , for me: starting in my mid 40s drops in hormone levels caused me to be completely flat in affect, with zero libido and wicked insomnia. Treatment changed everything. And third, he was extremely depressed. We found out that he had low testosterone. Treatment started and the depression disappeared. I wonder how many marriages break up because of undiagnosed medical problems.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p1cf8ex\/\" target=\"_blank\"> AngelaSLP <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-72\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016013\">\n<p id=\"11016013\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">You each need to manage your own parents. It will avoid a lot of MIL\/FIL conflicts.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p1bphrk\/\" target=\"_blank\"> golowgogolf <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-78\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016016\">\n<p id=\"11016016\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Reliability becomes a very attractive quality at a certain point in time. In fact, I\u2019d say stability and reliability should be top priority qualities when looking for a spouse. You want someone dependable, and you should also be dependable. Learning how to rely on each other, and trust each other\u2019s promises and abilities, only helps your teamwork grow stronger. And you absolutely are a team, working towards the same dreams, the same goals.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Other than that, find someone who will make you laugh. Life really sucks sometimes. Having someone who will make you laugh when life is beating you up is a precious and beautiful thing. Because if you can\u2019t find the humor in something, you will go crazy with stress. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p172uar\/\" target=\"_blank\"> OhkayKaeya <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-81\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016027\">\n<p id=\"11016027\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">It isn&#8217;t about what you can live without, it&#8217;s what you can live with.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16sc2h\/\" target=\"_blank\"> outerproduct <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-92\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015940\">\n<p id=\"11015940\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">You\u2019re not always going to be in love with each other. There are highs and lows. Some stages of life are harder than others, and sometimes you\u2019ll feel more like roommates.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16l0nf\/\" target=\"_blank\"> bamlote <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-5\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11015985\">\n<p id=\"11015985\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">A marriage (or any partnership) is about taking care of the puppy. The puppy is the relationship, and each of you needs to put in equal time caring for it, whether that&#8217;s feeding it, bathing it, walking it, etc. If one person is doing all of the puppy care, it&#8217;s not a relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>But it also means that each of you should play to your strengths. Don&#8217;t try to walk the puppy if you&#8217;re not reasonably fit. Don&#8217;t bathe the puppy if you have difficulty with getting splashed. Figure out what you&#8217;re good at, and do those tasks. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16tyqf\/\" target=\"_blank\"> DrBlankslate <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-50\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016006\">\n<p id=\"11016006\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">How some of your most meaningful memories aren\u2019t necessarily the grand gestures, but smaller, more mundane parts of daily life. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>A few years ago, my husband and I spent the night on the floors of separate bathrooms dealing with an especially heinous bout of food poisoning. He\u2019d FaceTime me to make sure I was doing okay and as soon as stores opened the next morning, he drove to the nearest pharmacy (still sick as a dog) to get my favorite flavors of Gatorade. He also got me hooked up to some IV fluids and prioritized my wellbeing even though he was going through the exact same thing. <\/p>\n<p>THAT is love and hands down the most romantic gesture I\u2019ve ever experienced. We\u2019ve done big vacations and he\u2019s overall a thoughtful communicator but that moment stands out in my mind as being indicative of his character. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p1agcor\/\" target=\"_blank\"> fatkidhangrypants <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-71\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016015\">\n<p id=\"11016015\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Your not always going to be all lovey dovey with each other. Once that face ends the real work begins, if you make it past this you will likely stay with your partner.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16rg60\/\" target=\"_blank\"> MaybeMaster1067 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-80\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016018\">\n<p id=\"11016018\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">The Gottman stuff is useful. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>When your partner turns to you to share something, however mundane, how you react matters. Not that each and every instance is make or break, but the eunn8ng tally of how often you ignore, criticize, react negatively on one hand, or listen, reapond, look for tge way to react positively. <\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Hey, look, theres a bird out the window&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>The better your patttern of those little things, the better chance disagreement, misundersanding and mistakes have of NOT becoming uncivil arguments. <\/p>\n<p>Practice that pattern of positive reaponse. It colors how you navigate the hard stuff. <\/p>\n<p>And if your pattern of reaponse sucks, what should be easy will vecome the hatd stuff. <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p1donch\/\" target=\"_blank\"> -paperbrain- <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-83\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016029\">\n<p id=\"11016029\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">You have to be on the same team. And if you don\u2019t want to be on the same team, somethings wrong. Yes there will be conflict there always is, but you have to remember you need to work towards a common goal.<\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskReddit\/comments\/1vd5q4q\/married_people_or_redditwhats_a_secret_about\/p16yu02\/\" target=\"_blank\"> MidgetsRunningWild <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/marriage-secrets-nobody-believes\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/reddit-post-15985-94\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"11016032\">\n<p id=\"11016032\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">The quality and availability of bed(s) will shape everything else in your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>Are you both large individuals? Trying to sleep together in a queen bed will result in anger, sleeplessness, and arguing. Get a king size bed. <\/p>\n<p>Does one of you snore? Or stay up late while the other retires early? Have a second bed elsewhere and acknowledge sleep has to occur there. 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