{"id":24234,"date":"2026-08-01T14:10:49","date_gmt":"2026-08-01T09:10:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=24234"},"modified":"2026-08-01T14:10:49","modified_gmt":"2026-08-01T09:10:49","slug":"man-had-big-hopes-for-talented-son-but-ended-up-fighting-wife-over-his-living-situation-in-his-40s","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=24234","title":{"rendered":"Man Had Big Hopes For Talented Son But Ended Up Fighting Wife Over His Living Situation In His 40s"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><script>\r\n  atOptions = {\r\n    'key' : '644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6',\r\n    'format' : 'iframe',\r\n    'height' : 90,\r\n    'width' : 728,\r\n    'params' : {}\r\n  };\r\n<\/script>\r\n<script src=\"https:\/\/www.highperformanceformat.com\/644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6\/invoke.js\"><\/script>\r\n<br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/lifestyle\/parenting\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener \"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">parents<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are obligated to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/funny-wholesome-parents\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener \"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">support<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> their children throughout their lives, many would argue that there is an age limit. Some may say the assistance ends at 18, while others accept extending it until the child finishes their education or when a crisis hits along the way.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But what about providing support for a fully independent <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/family-scapegoat-parent-guilt\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener \"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">adult child<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in their 40s who is married with kids? Quite unheard of for many people, but as <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AITAH_unfiltered\/comments\/1v10wb5\/aitah_in_trying_to_reduce_supporting_a_40_yo_son\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">this story<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> shows, it happens. Here, a man wanted to cut funding for his 40-something adopted son, but got brutally shut down by his wife.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not only was he accused of being \u201ctoo mean,\u201d but he was also viewed as a massive jerk by his family.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>A parent providing financial support for their adult child in their 40s is quite unheard of for the most part<\/b><\/h3>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"financial-boundaries-adult-son1\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=financial-boundaries-adult-son1.jpg\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Dad Gets Villainized For Trying To Make Wife See That Her Son Is An Adult In His 40s With 2 Kids\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?media_id=financial-boundaries-adult-son1\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/financial-boundaries-adult-son1.jpg\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10964851\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/financial-boundaries-adult-son1.jpg\" alt=\"A man financially supporting his son in his 40s, talking with his son outdoors.\" width=\"700\" height=\"467\" title=\"A man financially supporting his son in his 40s, talking with his son outdoors.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Image credits: <a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/senior-father-and-his-young-son-on-a-walk-in-town-talking-bACLEky9dzU\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">Getty Images \/ Unsplash (not the actual photo)<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>This is what a couple did for their 40-something son, who is married with children<\/h3>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_501bd7777dbcd00a3144b7f2b6f4a7aa\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=author_501bd7777dbcd00a3144b7f2b6f4a7aa.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_501bd7777dbcd00a3144b7f2b6f4a7aa.jpg\" alt=\"Screenshot of text about a man financially supporting his son in his 40s.\" title=\"Screenshot of text about a man financially supporting his son in his 40s.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_df84bbb514f45b27b4d45f63f508b6b1\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=author_df84bbb514f45b27b4d45f63f508b6b1.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_df84bbb514f45b27b4d45f63f508b6b1.jpg\" alt=\"Screenshot of text about a man supporting his son in his 40s and his wife.\" title=\"Screenshot of text about a man supporting his son in his 40s and his wife.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"2-36.pn\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=2-36.png\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Dad Gets Villainized For Trying To Make Wife See That Her Son Is An Adult In His 40s With 2 Kids\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?media_id=2-36.pn\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/2-36.png\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10964657\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/2-36.png\" alt=\"Screenshot of text discussing a man financially supporting his son in his 40s.\" width=\"700\" height=\"364\" title=\"Screenshot of text discussing a man financially supporting his son in his 40s.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"3-23.pn\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=3-23.png\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Dad Gets Villainized For Trying To Make Wife See That Her Son Is An Adult In His 40s With 2 Kids\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?media_id=3-23.pn\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/3-23.png\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10964658\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/3-23.png\" alt=\"Screenshot of text about a man's wife urging their son to move out.\" width=\"700\" height=\"260\" title=\"Screenshot of text about a man's wife urging their son to move out.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"post-desktop-ad-within-content post-ads margin-left\"><span class=\"dfp-ad\"><span><span class=\"pg-ad-label\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/span><\/span><span data-aa-adunit=\"\/46481815\/bp.com_desktop_singlepost_bottom_728x90\" id=\"adverge-div-gpt-ad-1491844427478-6\"\/><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"4-22.pn\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=4-22.png\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Dad Gets Villainized For Trying To Make Wife See That Her Son Is An Adult In His 40s With 2 Kids\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?media_id=4-22.pn\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/4-22.png\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10964659\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/4-22.png\" alt=\"A man financially supporting his son and extended family, paying for rent, food, and utilities, is highlighted in this text.\" width=\"700\" height=\"312\" title=\"A man financially supporting his son and extended family, paying for rent, food, and utilities, is highlighted in this text.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_a171057af507814db3ca95c6d62fd70d\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=author_a171057af507814db3ca95c6d62fd70d.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_a171057af507814db3ca95c6d62fd70d.jpg\" alt=\"Text explaining a man's struggle with financially supporting his son and passive-aggressive behavior, as his wife shuts him down.\" title=\"Text explaining a man's struggle with financially supporting his son and passive-aggressive behavior, as his wife shuts him down.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_db7c35232e8264f9feca482b51b6888a\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=author_db7c35232e8264f9feca482b51b6888a.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_db7c35232e8264f9feca482b51b6888a.jpg\" alt=\"Text about a man and wife retiring and no longer needing to stay in the DC area after financially supporting their son.\" title=\"Text about a man and wife retiring and no longer needing to stay in the DC area after financially supporting their son.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"financial-boundaries-adult-son2\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=financial-boundaries-adult-son2.jpg\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Dad Gets Villainized For Trying To Make Wife See That Her Son Is An Adult In His 40s With 2 Kids\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?media_id=financial-boundaries-adult-son2\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/financial-boundaries-adult-son2.jpg\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10964970\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/financial-boundaries-adult-son2.jpg\" alt=\"An older man and woman at a table with a laptop and papers, discussing financially supporting son in his 40s.\" width=\"700\" height=\"467\" title=\"An older man and woman at a table with a laptop and papers, discussing financially supporting son in his 40s.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Image credits: <a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/a-stressed-and-sad-senior-couple-calculate-expenses-or-planning-budget-together-at-home-bkB2bQetRrI\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">Getty Images \/ Unsplash (not the actual photo)<\/a><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"post-desktop-ad-within-content post-ads margin-left\"><span class=\"dfp-ad\"><span><span class=\"pg-ad-label\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/span><\/span><span data-aa-adunit=\"\/46481815\/bp.com_desktop_singleimage_bottom_728x90\" id=\"adverge-div-gpt-ad-1491844427478-3\"\/><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h3>And when the dad wanted to cut the funding, his wife shot him down<\/h3>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"5-18.pn\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=5-18.png\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Dad Gets Villainized For Trying To Make Wife See That Her Son Is An Adult In His 40s With 2 Kids\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?media_id=5-18.pn\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/5-18.png\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10964693\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/5-18.png\" alt=\"Text about a son wanting to move to Buffalo for snow, and his wife's insistence on buying their son and family a home, continuing financial support.\" width=\"700\" height=\"364\" title=\"Text about a son wanting to move to Buffalo for snow, and his wife's insistence on buying their son and family a home, continuing financial support.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"6-15.pn\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=6-15.png\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Dad Gets Villainized For Trying To Make Wife See That Her Son Is An Adult In His 40s With 2 Kids\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?media_id=6-15.pn\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/6-15.png\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10964694\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/6-15.png\" alt=\"Man financially supporting son and facing resistance from wife and son regarding a rent-to-purchase house.\" width=\"700\" height=\"260\" title=\"Man financially supporting son and facing resistance from wife and son regarding a rent-to-purchase house.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_bb9c3b85e67f8d11aacffe5b2d853866\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=author_bb9c3b85e67f8d11aacffe5b2d853866.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_bb9c3b85e67f8d11aacffe5b2d853866.jpg\" alt=\"Man considering buying a house for his wife and a separate rent-to-purchase house for his son and family.\" title=\"Man considering buying a house for his wife and a separate rent-to-purchase house for his son and family.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"1-35.pn\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?image_id=1-35.png\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Dad Gets Villainized For Trying To Make Wife See That Her Son Is An Adult In His 40s With 2 Kids\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/financial-boundaries-adult-son\/?media_id=1-35.pn\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/1-35.png\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10964649\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/1-35.png\" alt=\"Man feeling like an outcast for financially supporting son, seeking fresh perspectives.\" width=\"700\" height=\"208\" title=\"Man feeling like an outcast for financially supporting son, seeking fresh perspectives.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Image credits: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AITAH_unfiltered\/s\/VWqeBhdVkV\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">Razzmatazz1961<\/a><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"post-desktop-ad-within-content post-ads margin-left\"\/><\/p>\n<h3><b>Parents continue to support a child financially later in life out of concern for a possible \u201cemotional response\u201d<\/b><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The mom\u2019s hesitance to cut financial support for her 40-something son could be her way of avoiding a potentially stressful situation. According to clinical psychologist <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.growthky.com\/about-dr-ellie-miller\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dr. Ellie Miller<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the parents see this show of support as a way to feel \u201cshort-term relief.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIf the parent begins to establish financial boundaries, this often elicits an emotional response from the adult child and stress for the parent,\u201d Dr. Miller told <\/span><b>Bored Panda<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. \u201cThis \u2018relief\u2019 is extremely difficult to move past because it provides momentary comfort and a feeling of peace, until the cycle begins again.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But why does this dynamic occur, to begin with? According to licensed marriage and family therapist <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.empowering-hope.com\/rachel\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rachel Berglund<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it all ties back to the parenting strategies used on the child.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIf your child is sitting at home all day playing video games and you pay their bills, you\u2019re enabling them,\u201d she explained. \u201cIf they are working and struggling to make ends meet, that may be support. The line is: if you took your support away, would your adult child drown?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Berglund also pointed to some parents\u2019 inability to prepare for the reality that their child will one day move out and become an adult. When this happens, they will also think about their son or daughter in a \u201cchild way.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>Empowerment and positive reinforcement are effective ways to gently encourage an adult child to be financially independent<\/b><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What may have ticked off the wife was her husband\u2019s seemingly adamant push for their son\u2019s independence. According to experts, empowerment along with some positive reinforcement may help smooth the transition.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">UK-based psychotherapist <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/privatetherapypractice.co.uk\/professional-bio-hannah-campbell\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hannah Campbell<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> urges doing things in phased stages while also setting firm but kind boundaries.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIf the parents are incredibly worried about managing that rupture, they could seek financial support in terms of education and\/or family therapy to repair the structure,\u201d she said, noting that this may allow the child to step into being a fully functioning adult, while allowing the parents to \u201creclaim this chapter in their lives as their own.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Meanwhile, licensed marriage and family therapist <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.peoplenotproblems.com\/about\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">David Lieberman<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> urges parents to introduce their child to different ways to achieve success. He says that while there must be an open line of communication about hopes and dreams, there shouldn\u2019t be an \u201cundercurrent of \u2018shoulds\u2019 and sneaky expectations.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cLetting our kids feel fully heard in their fear(s) without responding with pithy advice is magic and can help transform our relationships as we all grow older \u2013 together,\u201d he said.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The dad\u2019s intent may be in the right place, but the way he conveys the message clearly doesn\u2019t sit well with his wife. 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