{"id":21729,"date":"2026-07-30T06:17:51","date_gmt":"2026-07-30T01:17:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=21729"},"modified":"2026-07-30T06:17:51","modified_gmt":"2026-07-30T01:17:51","slug":"brides-honestly-share-what-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=21729","title":{"rendered":"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><script>\r\n  atOptions = {\r\n    'key' : '644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6',\r\n    'format' : 'iframe',\r\n    'height' : 90,\r\n    'width' : 728,\r\n    'params' : {}\r\n  };\r\n<\/script>\r\n<script src=\"https:\/\/www.highperformanceformat.com\/644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6\/invoke.js\"><\/script>\r\n<br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>The happiest day of your life, your wedding, could always have been a bit brighter and brighter in your daydreams. At least, that\u2019s what some people tell themselves during a moment of honesty when they look back at the occasion with their hindsight goggles on (remember, they always make your vision 20\/20).<\/p>\n<p>Reddit users frequenting the r\/AskWomen subreddit have been opening up about some of the things they would love to have changed about their wedding day if only they could go back in time. In the viral thread, the women are offering a wealth of advice for brides-to-be. It\u2019s thoroughly eye-opening to see how many things can potentially go wrong during the ceremony and reception. Things that you possibly wouldn\u2019t even think of, unless you\u2019ve already racked up the experience.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019ve collected some of the best and most honest insights that internet users shared about their weddings, so take a peek if you\u2019re curious, and don\u2019t forget to upvote the answers that you found illuminating. Though with everything said and done, we do have to remember this simple fact\u2014no wedding will ever be \u2018perfect.\u2019 All manner of things will go wrong, but, at the end of the day, it\u2019s your love for one another that should be the focus. Not the photographer, place settings, and band.<\/p>\n<p>The author of the original thread, Alyssa, aka u\/Puzzleheaded-Yam-411, revealed to <strong>Bored Panda<\/strong> that she will be having her own wedding in May 2022, and was hoping for some advice from other brides. &#8220;I have found it so difficult to plan our wedding on my own. I wanted to get some advice from fellow brides on what they found helped them with the big day that might alleviate some of the pressure. Especially on the actual day, what they found important to remember,&#8221; she told me in an<em> exclusive interview<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>In Alyssa&#8217;s opinion, there isn&#8217;t such a thing as &#8216;perfect&#8217; wedding because everyone has their own idea of what this entails. &#8220;Plus, it is so much better when your wedding is original and different! That\u2019s what people will remember about it,&#8221; she mused. &#8220;Our wedding is in May 2022, and we know, just like in life, some things won\u2019t go just as we planned. Ours was originally booked for 2021! It may be difficult on the day, but as long as you focus on what is the most important aspect, each other, then everything else will fade into the background. I won\u2019t lie and say it won\u2019t be stressful, but I\u2019m sure a glass or two of champagne will wash that stress away!&#8221; Scroll down for Bored Panda&#8217;s full chat with Alyssa as well as for my interview about wedding problems with Anna and Sarah, Team Leaders at The Wedding Society.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.msn.com\/en-us\/channel\/source\/Bored%20Panda\/sr-vid-txrs4te28kwcsdrc0dpxbbw8vxmd9pe0wskew5qma2etcx500wwa\" rel=\"nofollow\" class=\" staff-link\">Click here<\/a><\/strong> &amp; follow us for more lists, facts, and stories.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989191\">\n<p id=\"10989191\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232321-61adbe03b1a24__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">My ex husband loves to have fun at my expense. When we cut the cake, I tried to playfully get icing on his nose. He ducked, avoiding me, didn&#8217;t even take a bite of the cake, then he grabbed a handful of cake and rubbed it into my hair. It took everything in me to not cry in front of the 150 people there. I put on the performance of a lifetime. I feigned a laugh and acted like it was all in good fun. I wish I had just let my tears fall and simply asked him in front of everyone &#8220;why would you do that?&#8221; In reality, I should have never married him, and then I should have left years before I did. But here we are. I don&#8217;t necessarily regret that (we had beautiful children), but I always wish I had stood up for myself. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlk25rr\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> NotSoEasyGoing <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/white-icing-cover-cake-1702373\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Brent Keane <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-2\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989194\">\n<p id=\"10989194\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232318-61adbc170a96d__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">I would NOT have told anybody my wedding plans. Like just not offered any info whenever I was asked how wedding planning was going, and just say I was keeping it a surprise. My mother in law and sister in law lost their s**t over my flower selection. My mom told me I was an embarrassment over my catering selection (mind you my husband and I paid for everything ourselves). When showing my aunt my Pinterest board for wedding dresses she literally said \u201cI know your style is better than this, these are terrible, it\u2019s a good thing I caught it before you bought anything\u201d. Everyone felt that they knew better than us. Up until the morning of our wedding day these women were trying to pressure me into making changes and spending money i didn\u2019t have. I still did everything I wanted and the day was lovely and everyone enjoyed\/behaved themselves. but I just could have saved myself a ton a misery if I had only kept my mouth shut about my plans. I wish instead wasting all my energy on defending my choices, apologizing, and then second-guessing my plans, I spent that time enjoying being engaged. It seems petty because it only a one-day event. But seeing how judgmental and pushy they all were in trying to bully me into each of their own specific tastes really opened my eyes, and has caused a bit of a \u201cstrain in those relationships\u201d (read: I\u2019m no longer the easy to manipulate pushover they all needed me to be). <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hljajj9\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> CatherineO1 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/wedding-preparation-313707\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Terje Sollie <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-3\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-3\"><\/p>\n<p>Alyssa, the author of the thread, was candid with me that she has found the wedding preparations to be very stressful and overwhelming. Even now, once she&#8217;s gotten more experience.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;If I had to start the planning all over again I would say, don\u2019t be afraid to ask for help,&#8221; she gave our readers here at Bored Panda some spot-on advice. &#8220;Whether that be hiring a wedding planner, or asking friends and family to deal with certain suppliers. The difference it would have made hiring a wedding planner is insurmountable. Even though our wedding is small (around 70 guests) you would be surprised how much detail needs to be covered in order to have everything come together seamlessly.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The bride-to-be shared exactly how many details planners have to be aware of. Details that many of us wouldn&#8217;t even consider. &#8220;Think of a table, what is on that table? Plates, cutlery, crockery, glasses, table linen, candles, flower garlands, chairs, sashes, the table itself, the list goes on. And you have to organize all of this!&#8221; Alyssa pointed out how overwhelming things can get.<\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989198\">\n<p id=\"10989198\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232326-61adc5041c62b__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">My sister said she wished someone had packed her and her husband an extra to-go box of the food served at the wedding. She said they barely ate dinner because they were busy talking to people and they had an addrenial rush and not much of an appetite. They were starving when they got to their hotel. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlk1t0h\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> User <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/sosOqjx31Go\" target=\"_blank\"> Ella Olsson <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-4\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989201\">\n<p id=\"10989201\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232324-61adc40cddef9__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">It would&#8217;ve been much smaller and I would&#8217;ve told my dad that he wasnt planning it. I was 19 and my husband was 21 so we had no money but were in love. My dad decided since the FOB pays, then it&#8217;s HIS wedding so whatever he wants is what I got. If I could go back, I would&#8217;ve had a budget wedding with maybe 40 friends\/family of MY choosing instead of 200 people that I&#8217;ll never see again. Different gown (no train or veil this time). And REAL flowers instead of fake ones. I also wouldn&#8217;t have had it in a church. I&#8217;m not religious but was guilt-tripped into going to pre-cana classes at the church and having the ceremony there. I would&#8217;ve taken most of the &#8220;traditional&#8221; elements out. Side Note: I still have a good relationship with my dad AND my husband and I have been married almost 20 yrs now. So really bottom line&#8230; the wedding day doesnt matter. It&#8217;s all the days after it that matter. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hljb159\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> KttyLn <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/K8KiCHh4WU4\" target=\"_blank\"> Jeremy Wong Weddings <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-5\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989204\">\n<p id=\"10989204\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232335-61adc92232630__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">I would have gotten married at 11am! I spent so much time being nervous to walk down the aisle (because of all the people). I spent literally half the day being nervous! Get married in the morning so you can spend the rest of the day partying and having fun on your wedding day! <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlkcmet\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> nkabatoff <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/woman-wearing-white-wedding-gown-holding-hands-with-man-while-walking-1043902\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Jeremy Wong <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-6\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-6\"><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;If your fianc\u00e9 is anything like mine, don\u2019t even contemplate asking for his opinion as it will most likely be answered with, &#8216;Errrr\u2026&#8217; Though in all seriousness, I think it\u2019s because he knows whatever he says I won\u2019t listen to, haha! This is all of course relevant to people organizing a wedding where it is not in a p******. p****** weddings work completely differently and may be much more stress-free for future couples to look into.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Alyssa also advised other brides-to-be to do their homework on their supplies and read every single contract in detail before signing anything. That can save a lot of headaches in the future.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Especially due to the current economic climate, many companies have changed their terms and conditions. So if you think you can just get a deposit back because of something Covid related, you may be disappointed. Many suppliers are friendly, to begin with, but the moment money is mentioned or involved they can completely turn in into different people. Trust us, we know. Covid broke out a few months after we booked with many suppliers.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>However, the most important thing is to do your research. &#8220;Read reviews, look at the photographer\u2019s portfolio before hiring, research what the food looks like or what other people\u2019s thoughts were! Another silly detail would be what do the products look like in &#8216;natural&#8217; light. It\u2019s easy to spend loads on d\u00e9cor when you choose it from studio lighting, it may look completely different in person.<\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989208\">\n<p id=\"10989208\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232316-61adbb2b912fc__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Hired a photographer. We eloped with siblings as witnesses because of some messy parent stuff. I really wish we would have hired someone to take a few posed pictures at the park or something. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hljacs3\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> treemanswife <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/camera-dslr-lens-macro-52963\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Pixabay <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-7\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989211\">\n<p id=\"10989211\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232317-61adbb958b6ec__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">I would have made sure to plan a bit of alone time for myself the day of. I didn\u2019t get even 5 minutes to just be by myself before my wedding, to breathe or reflect or generally be in the moment. That morning was a blur of people and activity. I found it exhausting to have some kind of audience for an entire day, sunrise to well after sunset. A moment to happily freak out about the fact that holy s**t, I\u2019m about to get married! with no one watching would have been awesome. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlk2t59\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> emutes <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-8\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989214\">\n<p id=\"10989214\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232336-61adc9b3b8984__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Remembered to take a change of clothes with me to the hotel so I didn\u2019t have to leave the next morning in my wedding dress like some kind of crazy-[b**t] walk of shame <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hllkq3n\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> aimeed72 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/white-and-black-floral-cap-sleeved-shirt-994523\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Artem Beliaikin <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-9\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-9\"><\/p>\n<p>Meanwhile, Anna and Sarah from The Wedding Society shared their professional perspectives on why things can go wrong during weddings and what the main issues tend to be. At the core of it all lies the importance of accepting that some things won&#8217;t go smoothly. Plans are rarely (if ever!) perfect and some things will go wrong sooner or later.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;From our experience, the main issues that pop up for couples usually revolve around family dynamics, which are almost impossible to avoid!&#8221; they were candid with Bored Panda. &#8220;It&#8217;s hard to foresee everything that might go wrong from vendor mistakes or issues through to that drunk bridesmaid falling on the cake, so all you can really do is plan for what you might expect and accept that something definitely will go wrong. If you can just embrace the fact that not everything will go to plan. you&#8217;ll have a much better day!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989217\">\n<p id=\"10989217\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232323-61adc3286ea04__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Everything. Wanted a lavender dress but I was young and told I had to wear white. I would have it in an old bldg, gothic style with a garden outside for pics, pro photographer and very few people. Taco and margarita bar for the win next time if ever. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlja91p\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> LeighofMar <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/lc8BpLcljz4\" target=\"_blank\"> Tai&#8217;s Captures <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-10\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989220\">\n<p id=\"10989220\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232319-61adbc8ea21fd__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Remembered to grab my bouquet. It was sitting on the coffee table all day. Now we just laugh about it &#8211; I spent hundreds of hours crocheting it for it to be left at home. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hljf3iv\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> RainingRabbits <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/person-arranging-a-bouquet-of-flowers-5894075\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Anna Shvets <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-11\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989223\">\n<p id=\"10989223\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232325-61adc4b98ba1e__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Would\u2019ve gotten a dress that made me feel like a goddess. Mine was pretty but white ain\u2019t my color and it could\u2019ve been better. Also, don\u2019t do strapless. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hljr7hw\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> AccordingClassroom58 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/woman-standing-beside-hanging-light-bulbs-3014853\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Jonathan Borba <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-12\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-12\"><\/p>\n<p>Bored Panda wanted to know how the happy couple can ensure that their wedding is truly their own and how to not get lost in the maze of advice, coming from friends, family, and professionals. &#8220;It&#8217;s important to remember the almost everyone with an opinion really does have good intentions,&#8221; Anna and Sarah told me. However, having a clear vision of the happy day can help the couple focus.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;That said, it&#8217;s useful to have a really good idea of what you and your partner want for the day before you share the details with family and friends, so that you can stand firmer in your discussions about those choices. &#8220;<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s also the old nod-and-smile technique that works in all walks of life, not just during wedding prep. &#8220;If all else fails, one of the best things you can do is nod your head, smile, and agree, then do it your own way anyway!!&#8221; they revealed to Bored Panda.<\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989226\">\n<p id=\"10989226\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232320-61adbd9310e91__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Chosen different bridesmaids. I had six. Two are still in my life and four left in two separate s**tty incidents. I hate most of my wedding photos now <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hljen37\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> User <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/happy-young-asian-bride-with-girlfriends-on-wedding-4030790\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Dewey gallery <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-13\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989231\">\n<p id=\"10989231\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232322-61adc285cd244__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Sometimes I wish it wouldn&#8217;t have had to happen during a global pandemic, but honestly it turned out so beautiful anyway that I wouldn&#8217;t change a thing. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlj84mx\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> celestialism <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/464ps_nOflw\" target=\"_blank\"> Jeremy Wong Weddings <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-15\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-15\"><\/p>\n<p>\u201cTrust us\u2014you&#8217;re only going to truly enjoy the day if you&#8217;re focusing on what matters\u2014the marriage. Everything else is just details,\u201d Anna and Sarah from The Wedding Society told Bored Panda during an earlier interview that the happy couple should put the marriage first, not the party.<\/p>\n<p>According to the wedding experts, some people get far too \u201ccaught up in the party and the image\u201d of the wedding. This puts a lot of stress on the couple\u2019s shoulders. They become worried about things going perfectly. When, obviously, minor (sometimes major) mishaps will occur. Instead of trying to impress their social circle, they should focus on each other.<\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989232\">\n<p id=\"10989232\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232334-61adc89f7473a__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">It&#8217;s going to sound rough but I wouldn&#8217;t have worried about inviting most of my family. It turned out to be more of a fiasco than it was worth. We had the whole thing at our house and it was amazing, except my mother and some other members refused to communicate when or even if they were attending until the evening before. I knew my mother was likely to derail the day by giving the silent treatment and then just showing up and expecting applause. I felt sort of shamed into inviting them when I should have just been confident with the decision in my heart that I just didn&#8217;t need her there that day. Other than that, I was so happy we had a small wedding by our garden and [darn] the desserts were so good&#8230; <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hljwlpu\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> LunarLutra <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/plates-and-wine-glass-on-table-1114425\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Tembela Bohle <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-16\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989234\">\n<p id=\"10989234\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Not included my MIL in any of the planning\/decorating what so ever! She forgot who\u2019s wedding it really was and turned into a mom-zilla. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hljri3r\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> mainegirl91 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-17\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989236\">\n<p id=\"10989236\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232331-61adc7958333f__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Actually saved our vows. I have zero copies of it and neither of us remembers what all we said. Ugh. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlk66rj\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> Meggerhun <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/woman-and-man-holding-each-others-hands-2253842\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Emma Bauso <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-18\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix text-block \"> <span id=\"list-text-18\"><\/p>\n<p>The same sentiment of wanting everything to go \u2018perfectly\u2019 extends to wedding dresses, too. Some brides believe their wedding will be a failure if they don\u2019t have the most magnificent dress that is \u2018perfect\u2019 down to the last detail that they\u2019ve been imagining for years and years. However important a dress might be, it\u2019s still just a dress, at the end of the day.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe concept of a \u2018perfect wedding dress\u2019 really only matters deeply to those who are probably focusing on the wrong thing,\u201d Anna and Sarah noted that if someone finds themselves obsessing over a dress, it\u2019s best to reevaluate their priorities for their big day. The person needs to consider why they\u2019re getting married in the first place and if the image is more important to them than their partner.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThere are literally thousands of incredible dresses directly available to you\u2014it&#8217;s almost a physical impossibility for only one to be right for you and, if that&#8217;s how you&#8217;re feeling, it&#8217;s probably worth stepping back, taking a deep breath, and re-shifting your priorities,\u201d the experts told Bored Panda.<\/p>\n<p><\/span> <\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989238\">\n<p id=\"10989238\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232333-61adc84e6c1af__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Left my mil out of alllll of the planning\u2026 omg she had an issue with everything. We got the tuxes for the groomsmen and the dads and the dads wore black. Well she said \u201cI\u2019ll go with dad when he gets his because i want him to match me\u201d she wore purple. We said no 94835 times abs she was not happy. Then she needed a limo to get back and forth. She was way too involved and barely paid for anything. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlk07p9\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> sherlock&#8212;-75 <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/selective-focus-of-candlesticks-on-table-with-wedding-set-up-1128783\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Nathan Cowley <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-19\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989246\">\n<p id=\"10989246\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232337-61adcec4720e9__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Breathed. Slowed down. Spent more time with each person. Stopped worrying about all the things I couldn\u2019t control. (It hailed and then poured rain on my outdoor wedding) <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlm2l5i\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> Ahnamal <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/photo-of-bride-and-groomhugging-1023233\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Jeremy Wong <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-21\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989249\">\n<p id=\"10989249\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">I wish I&#8217;d had someone record the toasts. I didn&#8217;t want video of the rest of it, but I wish I could remember what the best man, my uncle, etc actually said. I am VERY glad I got myself a dress to match my bridesmaids for the reception. We did out first dance and the father\/daughter dance, then I excused myself to change. I was wearing more comfortable shoes, could dance easier, and wasn&#8217;t paranoid every time I had food or drink in my hand. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlly77k\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> Mirtai12345 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-22\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989253\">\n<p id=\"10989253\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232332-61adc7de0fb99__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">I would have slept in my own bed with my husband the night before. I have a hard time sleeping, especially when I am feeling anxious\/have a lot on my mind or when I\u2019m in an unfamiliar place. I rented a small hotel room with my sister MOH and mom to \u201cfollow the tradition\u201d and ended up getting 3ish hours of sleep off and on. I was totally exhausted all day and we ended up going home earlier than I wanted bc I literally could not keep my eyes open. When I was checking into hotel the night before I had a bad feeling I wasn\u2019t going to sleep well and I really wanted to just go home and sleep in my own bed. We had a small non traditional wedding due to covid restriction in my province and I had it stuck in my head I needed the tradition of not seeing each other until our first look. I also would have forced myself to scarf down a breakfast even though I was feeling anxiety nausea, and brought more snacks to eat before the ceremony. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlk9005\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> sroges <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/person-covered-with-gray-blanket-3794732\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Daria Shevtsova <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-23\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989256\">\n<p id=\"10989256\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232329-61adc6117ab2e__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">I would have waited 5 years. Not because I regret marrying him, we are still together and still in love, and not necessarily because I was too young to be married (I was 21) but because I was a very different person at 26. We live in a different state now, and our lives are way different to when we were married. I have met so many more people and formed so many wonderful relationships with them, I&#8217;m actually sad they weren&#8217;t at my wedding. I would have held it in a different location, one that suited my personality more because I like different things now that I&#8217;m older. The venue we chose was lovely but in the end, it didn&#8217;t feel personal, it was just a place to be married. I also have far different taste in style now, and have hobbies that I would have liked to see included in my day. So, short answer is I wish I waited to know exactly who I was before getting married, but I don&#8217;t regret it entirely. I still married the man I love, and that&#8217;s all that matters <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlk8d8m\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> User <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/selective-focus-photography-of-silver-colored-engagement-ring-set-with-pink-bow-accent-on-throw-pillow-265856\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Pixabay <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-24\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989260\">\n<p id=\"10989260\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232330-61adc6edca557__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Have the posed cutesy\/spicy pictures done on a different day. Scheduling all that on a day that you&#8217;re supposed to celebrate is honestly a drag and felt like a job. I would have just done it at the park, and had the reception at my favorite resturant. Organizing furniture and dishes and decorations to bring all of it on site was a job. just do anything that doesn&#8217;t make it feel like I worked instead of just enjoying my wedding day. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlk3wi7\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> phorayz <\/a> <span class=\"open-list-submission-source-separator\">, <\/span> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/man-wearing-black-suit-beside-woman-wearing-wedding-dress-standing-inside-room-1295993\/\" target=\"_blank\"> L\u01b0u \u0110\u1ee9c Anh <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-25\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989263\">\n<p id=\"10989263\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">less people spent less money should\u2019ve asked guests to take home the flowers (centerpieces, etc) because they were so beautiful and filled our tiny apartment before we abandoned them to die while on our honeymoon should\u2019ve steamed the antique veil before wearing it. I was so afraid of wrecking my grandmother\u2019s veil that I didn\u2019t take it out of its box until right before I walked down the aisle less staged family photos and more candids But\u2026 I\u2019m an introvert and would\u2019ve happily eloped. My husband loved the big party and I\u2019d do it all again just the same to see him that happy. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hllfw04\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> Fickle_Caterpillar16 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-26\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989266\">\n<p id=\"10989266\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"image-size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-232328-61adc5cb200b3__700.jpg\" alt=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\" title=\"Brides Honestly Share What They Would\u2019ve Done Differently On Their Wedding Day\"\/> <span class=\"bordered-description with-image\">Following, because I look forward to my big day (whenever it happens lol) and I want to know what I shouldn\u2019t waste time\/money on. My best friend got married in august. She interestingly said she would have eloped, and had more of a \u201cparty\u201d\/\u201cgathering after. She said she still would have worn a cute dress, just nothing as uncomfortable and expensive as a bridal gown. She said she wishes she saved money and scrapped the whole walking down the aisle portion altogether. She would have instead put the ceremony money towards a nicer honeymoon than the one they\u2019re going on (Disney world). I kind of consider doing that sometimes. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlj8wo0\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> iflssm97 <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-27\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989269\">\n<p id=\"10989269\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">I wouldn\u2019t have had my dad walk me down the aisle. He was late, left early, and tried to make the whole thing about him. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hllrisq\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> Etherealamoeba <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-28\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989272\">\n<p id=\"10989272\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Hired a professional photographer. The one I got was recommended by a friend and only $100 (I was too young and inexperienced to realize this was a red flag). She rushed us around the day of, left early, then we NEVER GOT THE PICTURES. We paid in full plus a tip, waited for months, contacted her again and again, but nothing. Not even a refund. To this day, I only have candid pictures taken by family and friends. I&#8217;ve come to terms with it&#8230; and at least the marriage is going great. We celebrated 10 years recently. <\/span> <\/p>\n<p class=\"post-bottom-meta-links clearfix \"> <span class=\"sources\"> <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"open-list-submission-source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AskWomen\/comments\/qz068m\/comment\/hlke337\/?utm_source=reddit&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3\" target=\"_blank\"> LampGrass <\/a> <\/span> <span class=\"report\"> <a class=\"open-list-submission-report\" href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/people-share-what-would-do-differently-wedding-day-msn\/javascript:void(0)\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/contact-us\/?report-post=https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/30-honest-brides-share-what-they-wish-they-wouldve-done-differently-on-their-wedding-day-29\/\">Report<\/a> <\/span> <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"open-list-item open-list-block clearfix \" data-submission-id=\"10989275\">\n<p id=\"10989275\" class=\"post-content-description text-open-list\"> <span class=\"bordered-description\">Taken more photos for myself. We eloped and I made a point of not using my phone the entire day and now I wish I had photos of the food we ate and just low key shots of husband. 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