{"id":16447,"date":"2026-07-25T05:18:31","date_gmt":"2026-07-25T00:18:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=16447"},"modified":"2026-07-25T05:18:31","modified_gmt":"2026-07-25T00:18:31","slug":"couple-buys-first-home-both-moms-ask-to-move-in-right-away","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/usnews-14267fa.ingress-comporellon.ewp.live\/?p=16447","title":{"rendered":"Couple Buys First Home, Both Moms Ask To Move In Right Away"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><script>\r\n  atOptions = {\r\n    'key' : '644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6',\r\n    'format' : 'iframe',\r\n    'height' : 90,\r\n    'width' : 728,\r\n    'params' : {}\r\n  };\r\n<\/script>\r\n<script src=\"https:\/\/www.highperformanceformat.com\/644b717812d811d6a1c1fc5b6ccd6fa6\/invoke.js\"><\/script>\r\n<br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Buying your first home together is one of those milestones most <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/relationships\/couples\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener \">couples<\/a> dream about\u2014even more so after a decade of living in cramped, underwhelming apartments.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">After five years of aggressive saving, this couple finally got there, purchasing an older four-bedroom house in a beautiful area. But the celebration didn\u2019t last long, and their pride and joy turned into frustration after each of their mothers visited for the first time. Instead of simply offering their congratulations, both women landed on the exact same idea: maybe there\u2019s room here for me too.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Perplexed, the wife couldn\u2019t let one question go: Why would either of their mothers want to live with them? So she <a href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/inlaws\/comments\/1urx9pv\/my_mom_and_mil_each_asked_to_move_in_with_us\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">turned to Reddit<\/a> to vent.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">After years of saving and making do with cramped apartments, a couple finally bought a home of their own<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"pexels-jonathanborba-28179581\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=pexels-jonathanborba-28179581.jpg\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Couple Finally Buys Their Dream Home, Both Moms Immediately Want To Move In\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?media_id=pexels-jonathanborba-28179581\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/pexels-jonathanborba-28179581.jpg\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-10922328\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/pexels-jonathanborba-28179581.jpg\" alt=\"A happy couple embraces, celebrating buying their dream home.\" width=\"700\" height=\"1050\" title=\"A happy couple embraces, celebrating buying their dream home.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Image credits: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/a-man-and-woman-hugging-each-other-in-a-home-28179581\/\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jonathan Borba \/ Pexels (not the actual photo)<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">It should have been a win. But the woman found herself venting after both her mom and MIL floated the idea of moving in<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_e867c4589fc0535d4e03b26f85ad9e0a\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=author_e867c4589fc0535d4e03b26f85ad9e0a.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_e867c4589fc0535d4e03b26f85ad9e0a.jpg\" alt=\"Screenshot of text: a couple buys their first dream home, both moms immediately want to move in.\" title=\"Screenshot of text: a couple buys their first dream home, both moms immediately want to move in.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_5b66c417c636f39e2844127c88511029\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=author_5b66c417c636f39e2844127c88511029.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_5b66c417c636f39e2844127c88511029.jpg\" alt=\"Screenshot of text discussing MIL asking to move into their dream home with no financial help.\" title=\"Screenshot of text discussing MIL asking to move into their dream home with no financial help.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_8813df2cfdf721cc70621e3c22373ab8\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=author_8813df2cfdf721cc70621e3c22373ab8.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_8813df2cfdf721cc70621e3c22373ab8.jpg\" alt=\"Screenshot of text: The couple didn't tell their moms about buying their dream home until after.\" title=\"Screenshot of text: The couple didn't tell their moms about buying their dream home until after.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_15f2bf5c747a75b40c751b3fe09756fe\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=author_15f2bf5c747a75b40c751b3fe09756fe.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_15f2bf5c747a75b40c751b3fe09756fe.jpg\" alt=\"Screenshot of text: Moms joke about moving into the couple's new dream home, immediately shut down.\" title=\"Screenshot of text: Moms joke about moving into the couple's new dream home, immediately shut down.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"post-desktop-ad-within-content post-ads margin-left\"><span class=\"dfp-ad\"><span><span 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7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-10922324\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/pexels-shvetsa-11368641.jpg\" alt=\"Two moms sitting at a dining table, possibly wanting to move into their child's dream home.\" width=\"700\" height=\"467\" title=\"Two moms sitting at a dining table, possibly wanting to move into their child's dream home.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Image credits: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/two-women-having-dinner-together-11368641\/\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Anna Shvets \/ Pexels (not the actual photo)<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_2abe0430917cfc6063fe57ef1734d83e\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=author_2abe0430917cfc6063fe57ef1734d83e.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_2abe0430917cfc6063fe57ef1734d83e.jpg\" alt=\"Text explaining the struggle a couple faced to buy their dream home, with moms wanting to move in.\" title=\"Text explaining the struggle a couple faced to buy their dream home, with moms wanting to move in.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_64a9e67b32e69141e1d54f90f32a2b94\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=author_64a9e67b32e69141e1d54f90f32a2b94.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_64a9e67b32e69141e1d54f90f32a2b94.jpg\" alt=\"Text expressing a couple's happiness in their marriage and dream home, feeling moms are taking advantage.\" title=\"Text expressing a couple's happiness in their marriage and dream home, feeling moms are taking advantage.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_a2a3edf8216b0b667d121ac1e4d2923b\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=author_a2a3edf8216b0b667d121ac1e4d2923b.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_a2a3edf8216b0b667d121ac1e4d2923b.jpg\" alt=\"Text detailing financial decisions of parents, including in-laws retirement and mom's savings, wanting to move in.\" title=\"Text detailing financial decisions of parents, including in-laws retirement and mom's savings, wanting to move in.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"post-desktop-ad-within-content post-ads 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data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=author_dcffa21a1a5d55061cd65b199a1baee0.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_dcffa21a1a5d55061cd65b199a1baee0.jpg\" alt=\"A screenshot of a Reddit comment discussing a mother's gambling problem and emotionally immature moms wanting to move in.\" title=\"A screenshot of a Reddit comment discussing a mother's gambling problem and emotionally immature moms wanting to move in.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"pexels-shvets-production-8929453-1\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=pexels-shvets-production-8929453-1.jpg\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Couple Finally Buys Their Dream Home, Both Moms Immediately Want To Move In\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?media_id=pexels-shvets-production-8929453-1\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/pexels-shvets-production-8929453-1.jpg\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-10922326\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/pexels-shvets-production-8929453-1.jpg\" alt=\"A serious woman with crossed arms in a kitchen, contemplating mothers wanting to move into their dream home.\" width=\"700\" height=\"467\" title=\"A serious woman with crossed arms in a kitchen, contemplating mothers wanting to move into their dream home.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Image credits: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/a-sad-woman-standing-at-the-kitchen-area-8929453\/\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">SHVETS production \/ Pexels (not the actual photo)<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\" class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"author_b58dfe39b0018ca17074a34561f6c996\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=author_b58dfe39b0018ca17074a34561f6c996.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/author_b58dfe39b0018ca17074a34561f6c996.jpg\" alt=\"A screenshot of a Reddit comment about parents complaining about the cold, questioning why moms want to move in.\" title=\"A screenshot of a Reddit comment about parents complaining about the cold, questioning why moms want to move in.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Image credits: <a class=\"author-name whitespace-nowrap inline-flex items-center text-neutral-content visited:text-neutral-content-weak focus-visible:-outline-offset-1 a no-visited no-underline hover:no-underline cursor-pointer staff-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/inlaws\/comments\/1urx9pv\/my_mom_and_mil_each_asked_to_move_in_with_us\/\" aria-label=\"Author: sabrownie234\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-expanded=\"false\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"whitespace-nowrap\" dir=\"auto\">sabrownie234<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"post-desktop-ad-within-content post-ads margin-left\"><span class=\"dfp-ad\"><span><span class=\"pg-ad-label\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Some commenters offered their thoughts, and the woman provided more details<\/h3>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"getty-images-kaAHTXhIk1g-unsplash\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=getty-images-kaAHTXhIk1g-unsplash.jpg\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Couple Finally Buys Their Dream Home, Both Moms Immediately Want To Move In\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?media_id=getty-images-kaAHTXhIk1g-unsplash\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/getty-images-kaAHTXhIk1g-unsplash.jpg\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-10935802\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/getty-images-kaAHTXhIk1g-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"A happy multigenerational family, including a couple, child, and older parents, in their dream home.\" width=\"700\" height=\"467\" title=\"A happy multigenerational family, including a couple, child, and older parents, in their dream home.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Image credits: <a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/happy-family-spending-time-together-and-smiling-while-sitting-on-the-sofa-at-home-kaAHTXhIk1g\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Getty Images <\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\/ Unsplash (not the actual photo)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"post-desktop-ad-within-content post-ads margin-left\"><span class=\"dfp-ad\"><span><span class=\"pg-ad-label\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Multigenerational homes are more common than you might think\u2014and the \u201creverse-boomerang effect\u201d is on the rise<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">On the surface, although certainly audacious after the first \u201cno,\u201d it\u2019s not impossible to fathom why OP\u2019s mom and MIL would float the idea of moving in.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">After all, multigenerational homes, where two or more adult generations share the same roof, are hardly anything new. In the US, it was more of a norm during the first half of the 20th century, before housing began to center on the nuclear family and Americans became healthier, lived longer, and accumulated more wealth. It became least popular during the 1980s, but with the 2008 financial crisis and the pandemic, the arrangement has become more popular in recent years. In fact, in 2021, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pewresearch.org\/short-reads\/2022\/07\/20\/young-adults-in-u-s-are-much-more-likely-than-50-years-ago-to-be-living-in-a-multigenerational-household\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">according to<\/a> the Pew Research Center, a quarter of US adults ages 25 to 34 resided in a multigenerational family household, up from 9% in 1971.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">While this statistic consists mainly of young adults living in their parents\u2019 homes, Pew\u2019s 2021 findings also show that 15% of 25- to 34-year-olds in multigenerational households were living in their own home and had a parent or other older relative living with them. Up from 12.7% in 2011, this arrangement, called the \u201creverse-boomerang effect,\u201d is also on the rise.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Describing this effect, Oyin Adedoyin, writing for The Wall Street Journal, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wsj.com\/amp\/articles\/more-parents-are-moving-in-with-adult-childrenat-younger-ages-a931f3d7\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">explains<\/a> that a greater share of parents aren\u2019t waiting for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-retirement-plan\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener \">retirement<\/a> or urgent healthcare needs to move in with their adult children. Pew attributes this to changing attitudes about family life, high housing costs, and challenges in finding affordable childcare. But for a subset of these families, Fortune\u2019s Jasmin Li <a href=\"https:\/\/fortune.com\/2024\/03\/07\/broke-boomers-millennials-reverse-boomerang\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">offers<\/a> a more pointed take: one rooted less in preference and more in financial necessity, where the driver isn\u2019t cultural or logistical but rather a retirement shortfall.<\/p>\n<p class=\"attachment-link-container shareable-image-block\" id=\"pexels-teona-swift-6874381\" data-href=\"http:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?image_id=pexels-teona-swift-6874381.jpg\"><a class=\"web-share-button list-item-share new-share-experiment\" data-location=\"single-post-image\" data-title=\"Couple Finally Buys Their Dream Home, Both Moms Immediately Want To Move In\" data-share-url=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/mom-mil-asked-move-into-new-home\/?media_id=pexels-teona-swift-6874381\" data-image=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/pexels-teona-swift-6874381.jpg\" rel=\"nofollow\"><i><svg class=\"svg-icon icon-share-icon\" role=\"img\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" viewbox=\"0 0 16 16\"><path d=\"M0 15C0 10.8824 5.22292 10.0588 8.79817 10.0588V14.1765L15.7006 8.23061C15.7941 8.15345 15.8695 8.05559 15.9213 7.94441C15.9731 7.83323 16 7.71155 16 7.58824C16 7.46492 15.9731 7.34314 15.9213 7.23196C15.8695 7.12078 15.7941 7.02302 15.7006 6.94586L8.79817 1V5.11765C2.3995 5.11765 0 9.76235 0 15Z\"\/><\/svg><\/i><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-10935803\" src=\"https:\/\/static.boredpanda.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/pexels-teona-swift-6874381.jpg\" alt=\"An older woman with a worried expression, reflecting on the idea of moms moving into a dream home.\" width=\"700\" height=\"1050\" title=\"An older woman with a worried expression, reflecting on the idea of moms moving into a dream home.\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Image credits: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/contemplative-mature-woman-looking-away-in-deep-thoughts-6874381\/\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Teona Swift \/ Pexels (not the actual photo)<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Millennials are catching the blast of a demographic \u201ctime bomb\u201d<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">According to Li, many <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/boomer-opinion-people-agree-with\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener \">boomers<\/a> are reaching retirement age without enough saved to support themselves, and so they\u2019re turning to their adult children for help. The outlet cites one estimate putting the median retiree\u2019s savings at around $142,000\u2014far short of the roughly $1 million many say they\u2019d need for a comfortable retirement. A separate Federal Reserve survey found that as of 2022, nearly half of Americans ages 65 to 74 had no retirement savings at all, despite most in that age group owning their own homes.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">OP\u2019s mother and in-laws, all in their sixties, seem to fit that broader trend. She explains that her in-laws \u201cblew their retirement\u201d on \u201cinvestment art,\u201d and that her mother\u2014who she suspects might have a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boredpanda.com\/casino-workers-saddest-thing\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener \">gambling<\/a> problem\u2014\u201chas barely anything saved for retirement and spends any money she gets her hands on.\u201d OP and her husband, by contrast, \u201caggressively saved for like 5 years\u201d to afford their home\u2014no small feat when nearly a quarter of millennials believe they\u2019ll never save enough for a down payment, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bankrate.com\/mortgages\/millennials-and-homebuying\/#statistics\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">according to<\/a> Bankrate. In that light, they look like the type of millennials Business Insider\u2019s Emily Stewart had in mind when she <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/boomer-retirement-crisis-millennial-children-financial-support-2026-7\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" staff-link\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">wrote<\/a>: \u201cThey\u2019re doing everything right to save for their golden years. Their baby boomer parents didn\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"post-desktop-ad-within-content post-ads margin-left\"><span class=\"dfp-ad\"><span><span class=\"pg-ad-label\">ADVERTISEMENT<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">And that\u2019s possibly the real sting for OP: the implication (or expectation) that she and her husband, like many \u201cseething millennials,\u201d according to Li, should have to bear the consequences of their parents\u2019 financial choices. Maybe it isn\u2019t just that her mother and in-laws want to move in\u2014it\u2019s the <em>why<\/em> she keeps circling back to in her post. They already have places to live. They complain about the cold every time they visit. They have opinions on everything the couple does. And they\u2019ve said themselves that caring for their own aging parents was awful.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">So perhaps the answer to OP\u2019s question has less to do with preference or misfortune than with financial necessity brought about, at least in part, by their own choices. Maybe that\u2019s what makes a \u201cjoke\u201d about having so much space land so wrong: it hints at something bigger, what Stewart calls an \u201cintergenerational financial contagion,\u201d where, as she puts it, \u201cOne generation\u2019s under-saving rewires another\u2019s math and rewrites their future.\u201d<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">How would you have handled OP\u2019s situation? 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